“Why is the sky blue? Why is my blood red? Why it rains? What is life? Why is the moon orange today?” Etc etc…
Then comes the dreadful ones the questions of life and death!
All the parents have been in this place. Once their toddlers start to talk there is no stopping them. All the Whys and Hows and Whats need to be addressed too. It’s just they want to be more acquainted to their surroundings and it is quite a reasonable demand considering they have just started their lives. But how many of us really listen to them and pause to answer them honestly? We all fear to let out more than they would need to know.. but that’s a chance we can take to open all the communication routes between a parent and child.
Lets analyse our response.
WHEN WE KNOW THE ANSWER and it is SIMPLE
The parents are a child’s first teachers. The answer we provide helps them build the trust and confidence in us. It also increases their interest in their surroundings. Ignoring these simple questions will curb their curiosity levels their observation skills and eventually turn them indifferent towards their surroundings.
WHEN WE KNOW THE ANSWER and it is COMPLICATED
The complicated questions are about their bodies about life and death. These are very sensitive questions, any wrong information about these can settle in their sub-conscious and they may grow up with the same wrong notions. The key is to LISTEN, PROCESS and then ANSWER honestly. Let’s think about it like that, IGNORING will shelve it. Wrong information will RUIN it, and the SIMPLE Truth will get them back to you always!
WHEN WE DON’T KNOW THE ANSWER
Don’t brush the questions away just because you don’t know the answers. Communicate to your child that you don’t know about it but you can surely find out the answer. And once said that, please do find an answer and even better if done together. This will enhance and encourage his quest for learning. By brushing it aside we are putting an end to it.
WHEN WE DON’T WANT TO ANSWER
To deal with a question coming at an inappropriate time the key is patience. They should be told that they will be answered but at an appropriate time and then try to raise the topic once u have time. For eg. you are in middle of the telephone conversation and your son pops up a question. Take a minute to tell him that you will soon get back to him once you have finished your call.
It’s tough being a parent for sure but it’s even tougher being a child who is so new to this world and as parents we can only help them and encourage them to be a well Aware and a Confident person.
LISTEN, PROCESS and ANSWER!!!!
Happy day :)